PEOPLE - who hasn't had to deal with test people or "problem people"? I think - and in fact I'm sure that we've all had to deal with an insufferable neighbor at some point. Or someone picks us up on the street and is simply looking for a scandal; or with signs that he wants to punch us. "Love your neighbor as yourself!", because that doesn't work? Or what do I understand from here? Am I the only crazy person that everyone is taking advantage of? Maybe that's what they are. A madman that many people take advantage of - although not all of them. Fortunately. 🙂
Could this have been the cause? That I'm crazy and that's why people take advantage of me? One of the causes could be But have you ever wondered why even some wise and fulfilled people in life are the victims of abuse from those without character?
That's exactly the point: people who make it difficult for others and eat up their days just need to fix their character. The less pleasant news is that only their lordships can do that. No one, however learned and benevolent, can make the beneficial change in their place! And this could hurt us, and it often makes us think, namely that we cannot change anyone.
Why can't we change anyone? In whose life or WHOSE life should we be interested, exactly? How can we tell? Well, quite simply. And a child knows! What person do you see in the mirror in the morning when you go to the shower? That person is the ONLY one that YOU have the full POWER and authority to change! You guessed it: yourself!
What do you do when you have a neighbor who gives you roast days?
How can you behave "normally", what can I say "Christianly" with someone who, almost every time he meets you, is looking for a "knot in the rush", looking for scandal and they are looking for almost any cost to make you sick, don't they know how they could better "put you on fire"?
The truth is you CAN!
Yes, you CAN handle this grumpy neighbor!
How?
Well, first we will answer the question: Why does he behave like this?
Simple: from a false sense of superiority and personal arrogance often taken to the extreme, caused or amplified by a very low self-esteem. Almost non-existent.
This guy is "away from home", actually.😐
And I don't judge him right away!
Who is to judge him, his reckless actions and words will judge him at some point.
Maybe that's why you see - if you have enough mind and you use it - that you have no one to talk to and communicate with when it comes to that
You simply catch yourself talking to yourself, as if your words and intentions mean nothing to him.
When the scandal rolls over him, the uncontrolled ambition to do harm and the anger, whatever you say and whatever you do are practically the same thing!
So what to do?
Because something is really to be done: you take care of your own life and work, and you build it as much as possible the way you like it.
And you LEAVE that one IN HIS WORLD!
Whatever he would say and whatever he would do!
No matter how much need they may show to talk or collaborate with you!
He is "away from home", you have nothing to do with him!
Some show the status of "left home" only at certain times. Others have it a lot and well.
They take it with them everywhere they go.
How do you deal with a person of yours who "left home" who is looking for the seed of scandal through everything he does?
I, for one, try to distance myself from the situation and, sometimes, even from his person.
To "give him peace", said in Romanian.
I seek to understand the depths of such behavior.
Many times I asked myself: why does my neighbor behave like this?
Why does he shout at me and swear at the top of his lungs, as if we are so far from each other, like from Earth to Adromeda, that a simple dialogue does not reach him or from you to me that he feels the need to swear of God and of all the saints and to speak badly so that what? To "demonstrate" how "smart" he is.
How do I deal with such a jerk?
He also threatened me with the police.
He only has!
Those who are like him and his wife, without the most important tiles on the house and without good growth at all, that's what they do!
Of course, he had committed several abuses of this kind towards me, and almost every time I make the imprudence to meet him, or it happens by accident, I receive from his "cleverness" and "pump-inflated" ego much the same kind of behavior.
Why does he do it?
As I said before, because of extremely low self-esteem.
But this behavior has another reason: namely, the respective person perceives me as much weaker, unlike himself, and more vulnerable.
That's why he thinks he can do anything to me.
Up to a point, though.
Fortunately for me, the fact that he still doesn't know, is that that point has already come.
No comma and other and other signs.
Breaking the relationship simply!
Believe me, it's really worth it!
How do I get rid of the mean neighbor and without some tiles on the house? Well simple: I no longer have any relationship with him. Point!
As a form of protection, I listen to carols and therapeutic music, sometimes I also listen to calming meditations.
That's it. I paid him too much attention instead of simply seeing my life and why it is beautiful.
To solve the things that depended on me, you know what I thought? To simply give back my neighbor's condition along with all their words and all the negative things they had to do with your approach. Correct? So I sent them a short sms in which I told them about this, that I leave you the state they created in my life through your attitude and words. Which I did. Because it belongs to them. There's no way I'm keeping something that isn't even mine.
How do you deal with a choleric neighbor who is always quarreling?
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