Surely we have all heard the wise saying, “If you were silent, you would remain a philosopher!”And no doubt I tasted a lot of it bitter, but still in need, wise wisdom.
So what do we say?
Is silence a practical solution for everyone and at any time? Is any problem in our life solved by mere silence?
That would be wonderful! We would have this solution to every problem, we should no longer simply struggle, learn something useful and beautiful every day, train ourselves, develop ourselves personally, cultivate communication skills, empathy, practical ways to solve problems, exceeding the comfort zone, etc.
Cultivating silence would suddenly be so simple! But would it really be useful?I notice that silence really can be a real benefit in life, and it saves us a lot of trouble.
If we think about it, how many marriages and relationships could be saved just by a simple silence, provided we know how and when to apply it!But only silence is useful, you probably often wonder? For the most part, the answer is a resounding YES!However, there is a HUGE difference between silence and being silent!Learning to be silent when needed and when it is to the advantage of both parties involved, not just ours, is the healthiest and wisest possible way to reach and develop the art of interpersonal communication!There are at least two kinds of silences I can say that I have noticed.
It is the silence of love and the silence of hatred.
Silence from the desire to communicate, to listen to the other, to show appreciation, from the desire to facilitate communication, to keep a calm, civilized, decent, mature, polite tone of discussion.
As we have seen, it seems that not every kind or form of silence is useful. Or is it? Otherwise, why were we created with the ability to speak, if silence were the defining attribute of human wisdom and solved everything?As we can understand, there are three types of silence: namely, useful and wise silence, useless silence, and harmful or toxic silence.Useful silence is the number one ally in interpersonal relationships and communication.
Silence is a useful art that we should all cultivate, including myself, who decided today to talk about such a vast and controversial subject, namely silence.And it is a kind of useless silence, for example to offer silence in response to a rational and useful question from the interlocutor, I say it is useless silence. And it’s not wise,though.Or to keep silent in order to defend some justified and useful rights is the same, a useless silence, sometimes.Silence instead of expressing your feelings of love, affection, appreciation and appreciation for the person next to you, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife – is also a useless silence and at the same time a proof of stupidity.Silence when you can and you have a sure chance of saving someone’s life or marriage by your well-chosen speech and used at the right time is also useless silence.To prefer to be silent when you need specialized help, instead of asking him from whom he has the necessary competence and training, is a useless silence.
Therefore, “if you were silent, would you remain a philosopher,” or rather, did you often find that your useless silence actually made you feel bad?
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