ACCUSATION with or especially without cause - we meet it more and more everywhere, don't we?
We are often unfairly accused, no matter what we do or say, someone will still form an opinion about us and our life - absolutely natural thing, by the way.
But there is a clear difference between forming an opinion about someone, whether it is positive or not, or even saying it, in a calm, conversational tone, straight to the face, and even challenging them to a calm dialogue, civilized, and shouting at your fellow man, humiliating his self-esteem and uttering derogatory epithets that denote, in addition to an insufficiently acquired level of education, therefore also a great lack of the "seven years from home", and enough problems serious mental health problems that require urgent control by a psychiatrist, including hospitalization and/or appropriate treatment prescribed by the psychiatrist.
When you shout at your fellow man, especially with derogatory, slanderous words, it is clear that you are not well educated by your parents, and I wonder what percentage of you are mentally healthy or not.
As a personal opinion, you should be taken to a psychologist when you are used to yelling at anyone-anything you feel is bothering you, so that they can see if they send you to a psychiatrist or not, and who can suggest the necessary therapy to solve your problem background: whether it is bipolar disorder, adaptive disorders and compulsive behavior or more serious mental health problems, which only a psychiatrist can spot in time and treat effectively. When you shout at your fellow man or your neighbor, you shout at your dramas, the dreams you didn't fulfill out of laziness, treacherous selfishness and indifference to your own soul.
When you put in the content of your cry the slander of the other, the slander, the negative label, it means that in addition to the fact that you slander him shamelessly, it means that you are not educated, that you almost had parents for nothing because you did not know how to take advantage of the education you received and that you allowed his ego to take charge of the brain, to annihilate his reason, by obscuring his soul and practically putting him out of office, and sitting at the lectern in their place, and taking this ego in complete or near command of the individual.
Such a man has deep wounds of lack of attention and lack of connection and love,unhealed by years. And when the wound from the soul and psychic plane sits there unhealed for years, things are similar to the symptoms of physical wounds: they always deepen and worsen and are difficult to heal, especially in such a case, when the person is not aware that he has a problem ,he avoids even admitting it out loud when a knowledgeable factor reminds him, it is effectively almost impossible for him to heal.
The one who shouts demeaning and slanderous words to his fellow man in many cases finds that he has an inner child still undiscovered and almost dead, crying for help from the arms, or from the prison of the ego.
That's why the person in question formed the habit of shouting unpleasant, insulting and nasty words at his fellow man and neighbor, because in fact his inner child is crying out for help, for "someone" to come and rid him of his ego, dramas and traumas which he is encompassed by, and which he "chose" not to heal, not to seek help through which he could get rid of such programs received over the course of generations,he could feel much better and the respective one, and the others people around him.
What do we do when such an individual shouts at us and fills the air with ugly, derogatory words towards us and treats us in all ways?
Well, whatever we do in the direction of that person is simply useless: the person in question is much too full of himself and does not hear us, no matter how nice or practical we speak to him.
Noticing that everything that comes from that person is far from being part of a dialogue and that whatever we say or do adds fuel to his fire, a man of integrity, moral and spiritual, educated and well-bred, who knows his worth real in society and his personal values will refuse any conversation with that person, keep his calm, inner harmony and peace, calmly leave the field of disputes and continue his life, personal development and increasing levels of happiness and satisfaction regardless of the presence or absence of the man who shouts and speak badly.
After a while, the respective person will either stop, or will have to bear unpleasant consequences for himself and his loved ones.
It is not for nothing that they say that "the jug does not often go to water", once in a while it somehow gets clogged.
We do ourselves a great favor when we remove that person from his personal life and family, unless unfortunately he is part of it, and let him in his world to fill his life with what he finds good and dear.
After the unwanted event has subsided and the noisy neighbor or the man on the street who shouted insulting words at us has also tamed his vile cries, we can tell him through a message or directly what a wonderful psychotherapist we have and how good we are felt after a few sessions, obviously if we follow them, and if we can't guide him discreetly or sometimes even directly to psychotherapy, it would help him a lot to be more at peace with himself and to solve his problems as much as possible. And if it is still possible.
And after that let's get away from him. Calm, with rare steps, safe on us and for a very long time. Even for life.
Important: all words without meaning and without any logic, belong to the person who shouts making a scandal, and remain on his character.
And at a certain moment he will have to learn the lesson not of his indignation, perfectly justified by the way, but of bearing the people next to him.
And unprepared as you know, this lesson will be tough.
A broken relationship is worth much more than one with serious difficulties and a disorganized life!
,,Life has priority!"!
How do you deal with a difficult person or a neighbor who shouts insulting and slanderous words over the fence?
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