Fall in love - why is it dangerous,how to avoid it, and what can we do instead?

Love - the most wonderful of human qualities. Praised and even glorified by poets and writers throughout history, experienced by every human being aware of himself and the external environment,Love in the true sense of the word can rightly be compared to air: something without which man cannot exist as an individual.

And yet this love that every human soul longs for, hides behind it a real danger, something that can show the difference between real intelligence and stupidity.

Life has helped me to know the big difference between infatuation and love.

Personally, I no longer believe in happiness, joy and satisfaction to the clouds that would result from couple relationships, in achieving happiness for two, except when it comes to two mature, rational people, with their heads on their shoulders, accomplished in life, independent of their partner especially in terms of personal happiness and well-being, which can be achieved as an individual, and which can be preserved as a couple.

Falling in love is a wonderful experience, but if we fall in love with the wrong person or before the psychic, mental and physical maturity has settled in the body, it can bring many dangers that we can avoid if we choose to walk with wise people so that we catch and we in turn wisdom.

Only wisdom, once acquired and then applied, helps us to notice the dangers in time, so that we can avoid them.

Or between what it can mean at a given moment in life the difference between being accomplished in life and being a failure.

In contrast to the Love, love,in addition to the benefits it has brought to man, many lives have been killed, many souls destroyed and torn to pieces on its pedestal.

The fall in love it's dangerous, because it almost ends up disqualifying you as a human.

Love can make you human, if you learn to keep things under your control and don't let it turn into a real danger.

Love can somehow be likened to a fire. On a suitable and controlled scale, fire is very useful to man: it helps him to cook, and in winter, when it's snowing and freezing outside,a good fire in the stove is all you could want when you come home in the evening from at work, right?

But if you leave it unattended, the fire could easily turn into a fire that can consume a wooden house in just a few minutes!! House that I worked hard for several years, in a moment of attention it can turn into ashes!! Why? Only because we allowed ourselves the stupidity of leaving the fire unattended! This can also happen with love, something that is the most noble feeling, which the Creator put in us so that the man and the woman he loves can be one, and can enjoy life together as a happy family, this feeling when left unchecked can lead to disaster. Keeping your feelings under control is a great quality, and it's nowhere near keeping them to yourself!

Keeping your feelings to yourself can be foolish; or an act of prudence, depending on the situation. But excessive prudence also derives from stupidity. Love can be dangerous when you trust it too much. Love can become a major danger when you trust it more than you trust yourself.

When you trust more than necessary in a partner or relationship partner, this naivety of yours can cause you serious problems. Among them I would mention health problems, especially mental health, you can develop symptoms characteristic of addiction, somewhat similar to drug and alcohol addiction. Love can drive the heart of man mad who lets himself be led by his selfish heart and feelings instead of turning his heart to reason.

How can we deal with inappropriate feelings of affection and be in control of our feelings?

- First and foremost, it helps us to develop, in addition to self-esteem, an "anti-girl" (or "anti-boy") reaction system to guard against the dangers of deceptive, treacherous or downright toxic in their immaturity since they first appeared.

- Let's base it on reason and not allow the heart to rule us.

- To find an occupation that gives us pleasure, and to concern ourselves with our personal development, with our own evolution, to occupy our time with constructive things, to keep a reserved attitude towards people of the opposite sex, not to grant them a priori trust.

That ate my head too, the illusion of relationship and one-sided pointless love, which only brings problems.

We can take relationship and personal development courses. Or why can't we find a hobby?

In any case, the act of trusting someone who doesn't deserve it is a dangerous thing that can disrupt our health, personal balance and sense of fulfillment, things more valuable than a fleeting and illusory love, which is not just love.

The reality is that although believing in a soul mate simply means giving credence to a classic myth that, in addition to the fact that there is no real woman or man who will arrive, even in time, to fold on your soul becoming your soul mate, the good news is that true love exists, that it can surprise you pleasantly or unpleasantly when you least expect it, and that in fact a smart man occupies his life time with much more important things than love and emotional, and that love he comes into the life of a smart, realistic man with his head on his shoulders, as if it were a bonus that the universe had blessed him with. In fact, the smart man received love in his life precisely because he kept his heart whole, he didn't offer it to anyone on a platter and he chose to deal with the things that matter, not with the money.

Thus, she created the conditions to receive and fully access true Love, which she used to look for the one who didn't even want to hear about love, but became emotionally independent and nonchalantly turned her back on love, choosing to- and he produces, or brings his own Love to life, cultivating self-love.

Self-love leads us to true love.

Who this time sees that we develop personally enough to correspond and make her attracted to our person, and from now on she won't be left waiting for long.