What holidays are you going to go on with your soulmate and how do you do it?

 SOUL PAIR - this expression sounds familiar, doesn't it?

The mass media, various "personal development" influencers, the online environment in which more and more people carry out their daily activities, social media, friends and other people with whom we come into contact on a daily basis, from time to time would launch, in case it would not even manage to implement in our consciousness, the variations of the characteristics of a great and relatively recently discovered myth: namely, the belief in the so-called soul mate.

But what is a soulmate?

How do we manage to meet it, what form does it take, how hard is it to find and what effect does it have, including finding it on the human psyche with its various experiences?

This is what we will deal with in this article.

Soul mate; the hero of movies, romance novels, syrupy series, for a long time I kept asking myself, what is this, in fact, why is he so sought after and loved almost everywhere you go, just like the horoscope on the 8 o'clock news morning?

Why are so many people looking for it, and who actually puts so much interest and effort into searching for it that they sometimes even get exhausted from it?

Maybe young people are so persistently looking for this uninvited guest of a soul mate, I sometimes thought to myself in a daze.

I somehow had the opportunity to sometimes observe young people, a boy and a girl holding each other's arms while walking slowly down the street, smiling and whispering "sweet" words to each other with the dexterity, suppleness and naturalness with which you talk about something that happened yesterday on your street, so much so that I am inclined to believe that, as it suits some people, "with a chair at the head", they themselves, the young people, are starting to take this soul-mate who appeared out of nowhere, possibly and from the American-English-Irish culture on our lands.

What does this soul mate look like?

Where is it found and what form does it take?

How do we come into possession of it?

When we talk about soul mate do we mean a person?

Or is it rather made up of the attributes or characteristics of a person, basic tools that we ourselves can cultivate and appropriate?

Is a person really what we "need" to "get" in order to have a happy relationship?

Is it so important to be able to "have" a relationship with a certain person to be truly a man, or truly a woman?

Who taught us that we need a person, a "relationship" to benefit from good emotional health, a good and strong personality, to be "people" in the true sense of the word?

Is it not possible that the useless advertising promoted by the mass media, the movies, novels, music and worthless entertainment of this world have implemented in the subconscious of so many generations the perpetuation of a myth?

The reality of so many breakups and seriously failed relationships after years of relationship or worse, marriage, proves useless the belief in the myth of the soul mate and especially the fact of acting paying attention to this myth and taking unnecessary account of it instead of cultivating beautiful qualities of personality that makes us more attractive in the eyes of potential partners.

It can be especially stressful to trust someone so much as your soul mate.

A soul that can let you down and leave you at any time.

But perhaps you mean the beautiful connection between your whole, perfect, self-sufficient, personally developed soul and the soul, or rather the beautiful and attractive qualities of a stable, self-sufficient person, and, like you, personally developed and in a continuous process of evolution?

This is how I would define a true soulmate. An accumulation of attributes and beautiful qualities that make the relationship not only a possibility, but a project, constantly in development and for the success of which you both work daily.

But could we simply consider a person our soul mate?

Of course, we like certain qualities that we find in our peers, with which of the qualities we somehow resemble in terms of personal evolution level.

By admiring these beautiful qualities that make up the soul mate, falling in love can appear over time.

The experience of falling in love can be a wonderful one, and it can enrich our lives in a specific way that we simply have no way of encountering otherwise.

Life and experiences from relationships that I have tried over time, as well as the level of personal development that I have reached, have helped me to distinguish as clearly as possible between falling in love and Love, and between the person whose characteristics they also love the soul mate represented in the real plane, i.e. the totality of the qualities that the person in question possesses.

And which we can also own.

That is the wonderful fact that we have almost permanent access to our true soul mate.

That, of course, if we refuse to be affected by the way in which the soul mate myth is perceived in society.

We all know, of course, what the myth of the soulmate actually entails.

There is no normal person who does not know that myth.

Within the myth of the soul mate, still insufficiently included in mythology but almost intrinsically part of it, it is assumed that every man has a "meant" woman whom he likes at a given moment, or whom he meets more or less by chance and with whom he falls in love, not infrequently, "at first sight", with whom he marries a little later or even sooner and "they live happily ever after".

Obviously, with small differences that can also be related to femininity, and within the myth observed in the female character, things are very similar. Enormous sometimes,even.

Why is the true soul mate not lost?

Precisely because it is eminently made up in my vision of the beautiful, special qualities of the person(s) we come into contact with at a given moment, and which we can appropriate so that they become part of our very being.

With such a soul mate, I would go on vacation however much and wherever my steps take me.

I thus choose a soul mate who cannot disappoint me and whom I can appropriate and develop at the level of a person, but whom I can never possess or even encompass.

Does this mean we don't need partnership and couple relationships?

It would be healthy and good if we only need our own development and see each other for life.

Not necessarily the fact of being in a relationship as a couple can necessarily be useful or harmful, but the attitude towards one's own person, including towards the relationship, makes everything.

What is important is what exactly we direct our attention to and what soul mate we develop, and how we invest in it.

 Man was created as a soul; no soul was given to him. It already was.

Even the Bible in the account of creation recognizes the fact that "man became a living soul". (Genesis 2:7)

In my view, the soul mate can represent, and sometimes even includes or contains, parts that I can observe in myself, namely the pleasant things that I can fall in love with.

Mostly, from a psychological point of view, and I think not only, your soul mate from my point of view, is mostly you.

There are certain parts of you that you find and like in the other.

The soul mate cannot be a person (because people can disappoint, and not infrequently they do, sometimes even becoming experts at it!), but only what it is: a soul, which contains within itself the sum of these beautiful qualities that they can sometimes make us fall in love with him looking with admiration at the person whose personality he is a part of.

What kind of soulmate do you choose to have, where will you go on vacation with him and how?