We all want and strive to do good from time to time.
Because that's how we were taught by our parents, and later we found out this at school, maybe a little different.
Then, starting with childhood, we began to apply what we had learned.
But what did I actually apply, I wondered a little later in life?
I began to learn that doing good means doing what others would want from me, hoping that after a while I will receive something according to the good done.
The education I went through as a child in communist Romania, often consisted of people's proverbs and opinions,and as far as some of them are concerned, I later developed the belief that they have a much low degree of practical applicability of the things they teach as a lesson, which, although they have a grain of truth, but at present it does not apply in any situation and something makes me believe that they were not the letter of the law in the past either, but rather it was proof of the finding of certain states of affairs.
I think of proverbs such as: „ Well done, well found! ”, „ Giving you will acquire ” etc.
If we were to guide ourselves in life on proverbs and sayings from men, it would mean that if we do good, God will help us or reward us with a proportionate good, or not only.
But should it be so?
How does another Romanian proverb come to be fulfilled in real life, namely: „ Do good and expect bad ”"??
When „ you do good and receive what is bad ”, this causes you to ask yourself a few questions, such as:
Does it still make sense to do good if I do good and get sick?
Is what I'm doing now really a good thing? If so, what and how well does it do and for whom?
In today's world, if you are „ imperfect ” and do a good deed, you end up being ridiculed, rebuked and there are circles, especially in the family, where it is almost considered a serious mistake when you do a good deed and when you help someone.
In the city, you are generally viewed with indifference when you do a good deed, but in some cases there are certain unwritten laws of society, so-called “good sense and healthy education” ,but that would stipulate that it is not good to do well, because you can expect consequences almost anytime.
But how can you be a man of character even with „ the seven years at home ”, if instead of helping and doing well, instead, do you prefer to sit on the sidelines and be silent for fear of the consequences you anticipate receiving? How can this still be called education?
I think it is applicable when I see or hear about cases of violence, then and there I feel that it is time to refrain, not to intervene, because this usually aggravates the situation, in addition to the fact that if I tried in that context to help, I would not actually do any good, but more harm!
There is an almost categorical contrast between what I learned when I was little and what I now learn from my parents and through experience, living in modern society: when I was little, I was taught both at home, in the family, and at school that it is good to help, to offer for the benefit of others, to help people when we see that they need it and we can help them. For example, helping an elderly lady cross the street, offering to take her luggage if I see that it is too difficult for her . This was once considered an honorable one, and a sign of education and common sense. Even today, such a beautiful gesture is not publicly condemned and I think there is no reason for that, because the compassion shown actually deserves the appreciation and respect of others, not disapproval and criticism.
But today, something has changed! The interest and well-being of the other, the way in which good manners are understood and, more precisely, the way people behave have changed somewhat.
Now, deontologically, in the eyes of some, it is no longer so practical to do good, but it has become more and more accepted in society to be silent, not to intervene, and take care of your business..
A great danger is that we educate and grow with such erroneous ideas one or more young generations, and if the manifestation of this type of maneuver continues, especially in the family, the elderly risk morally corrupting the young, and instead of instilling high values of the spiritual and moral life in them, based on sound principles, it is increasingly observed that some parents or grandparents can afford an unpleasant range of subtle mistakes, but which risk destroying the character of so many beautiful and healthy young people,because they only have the effect of undermining the priority of healthy education, and the act of doing good in itself is being degraded, which leads to an increasingly sick and impoverished society on a spiritual level, and to an increasingly difficult life to lead in such a society,in which masked selfishness can be assimilated by virtue, and to help one's fellow man is increasingly viewed with contempt and hatred!
As if you were doing great harm!
Will the good I do to someone make me a better person? Or, to the person I would like to do well, will I finally be able not to be influenced by the rules of society and to do at least a little good?
How many people will fall by doing someone good?
How will „ good ” made by me affect the other family members of the person I want to do well?
In other words, will there be victims of doing someone good?
How do you think this can affect you in both the short and long term?
The good deed you want to do or even commit recklessness and you have moved on to the facts, what does it really mean?
Is it really good?
Can a certain good thing be what actually does a lot of harm at the same time?
Is it necessary for me to avoid doing good, lest it turn into evil?
Do I have to refrain from doing well?
What is the reason I think so?
Is it right to think so?
How can I get out of this circle as mentally healthy as possible and ready for action?
What does it really mean to do well? To do good, to do good to others or how to do good?
You may think at some point that doing good is an honorable thing.
Of course, there are cases - and not a few - when doing good actually means doing more harm - and that really scares me a little.
Honestly, I would never have believed such a thing until I actually experienced it!
I mean, yeah, I can get the impression at some point that I can do well, and when I did the stupid thing to get to work, to be somehow forced to see the harm I did in fact wanting to do good.
I feel helpless when I see parts of the current system that are cutting my life and trying to stop me,so that I end up stopping at „ my debt ” to myself and society, as I was taught when I was a child.
Through the attitude I show, it is as if I want to conclude - completely wrong - that the values I learned as a child would be, after all, no more, no less than simple lies.
It would be very sad if the same source who taught us to do good, now I notice that he has changed his strategy, and trumpets with his mouth like a bag,that it's good not to do well!
What can I understand from all this?
Man, as long as his chair is not threatened, would support morality and good, until he feels that his position is threatened and, after that, hat!, it changes its position as dictated by the conjuncture and advantages, violates its consciousness and shows a trait that it does not have!
But what to do?
Man as an educated and integrated personality, as far as I know, will continue to do good regardless of the situation.
And I agree with that, no matter how much you, part of the structure of this twisted-minded society, tell me and preach to me that what I do is not good!
First of all, because it's my job what and how I do, of course, as long as a „ boyar ” with a rested mind doesn't necessarily see me, being able to teach me for a whole month that what I do is not good, but that good is what he tells me!.😅 In such situations, I usually shorten the conversation with a person, usually with a smile, and try to live my life and do what I can as discreetly as possible,without allowing him the satisfaction of allowing him to do what his muscles take with me.
So what can I do, how can I live in this world, in this family and social circle in which, as it seems, doing good is considered to hurt, and is harming illegal and useless, as we know from education and the experience of living in society?
We can change our perspective a little and instead put in more effort than is necessary to do good to the other ( who still has their place, but must be done with their heads!), I think I should strive to do well what I do, that is, in the work I do and in whatever I do, to do things as best I can.
Despite the fact that in fact some will say that what they are doing is wrong.
I promise that such hearts that seem to have a different understanding of human character and „ the seven years at home ” will not allow me to change!
Life has taught me that it is good to do well when you do it out of conviction and without obligations, but to know who, how well you can do, and when!
And the good done must be good for all involved, not just for one and to harm the other through that good.
But how do you feel when you do well is considered a mistake and a dangerous thing?
It is necessary to fight not with weapons, which do not bring any benefit, but by making every effort and using any appropriate means of training, through which we can receive strength and courage, so that we cannot afford to be carried in their race by people without character!
have asked myself several times in my life whether it is good or not good to do good to others. Would you like to know what conclusion I reached? In general it is good to do good; it is really an admirable deed. of many interesting and beautiful things, the good must be done head on. Not anyway, not anytime, and not towards anyone! It's good that before thinking about doing something good, I first think about the possible consequences. Of course, without living in fear. But, like any human deed, the good done sometimes has consequences. It's important to show maturity and to do good when it is in our power and when the person who needs help asks us for it.
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