Since ancient times, the world's most popular religions have clearly encouraged or even commanded children and young people to obey their parents.
Judaism and those who wrote down the Holy Scriptures were no exception.
But is obedience to parents so helpful?
How does obedience to parents differ from being a slave?
Is obedience to parents absolute? For how long can it be considered valid?
Since ancient times, rulers have been telling people with children to listen to their parents' children.
Even the writers of the Bible, inspired by the holy spirit, wrote down the commandment for young people to obey their parents.
How is it that the very religion that is said to lead people to God preaches loudly and clearly that children should obey their parents.
Interesting thing - is there such a commandment for parents to listen to their children?
To be honest, I would have loved it.
Unfortunately, many parents seem to be far too busy most of the time to really listen to their children and young people; and the interesting thing is that, unfortunately, they often aren't.
One of the reasons for this is that the system does its best to keep people so busy that they seem to lose sight of the most important thing: caring for their families.
In fact and in law, parents may have a much greater need to listen to their children and young people than children and young people need to listen to their parents.
Unfortunately, there is nowhere a command for parents to make time to listen to their young people!
If only there were a principle to this effect!
Of course, love can be the driving force that helps and motivates parents to listen to their children.
But, as we know, "love with shame is not possible".
But back to the importance of listening to children's parents.
What are some practical benefits of listening to children from their parents?
- A first use, and perhaps among the most important - is that only in this way can a family be functional, and all its members can thus enjoy together happiness, peace, peace,of harmony and understanding, of a cordial and peaceful climate, where the love between all family members is protected through this and can grow, and adults within the family can enjoy quietly, quietly,peace and harmony of family life and the important things in their lives of great people, and they can provide them and the family as a whole necessary things,so that the whole family may enjoy them together and that all members of the family may enjoy as fully as possible what they have and the privilege that they belong from a happy and united family.
- The second reason why listening to parents is so important: to allow children and young people to learn from their own mistakes in an age-appropriate setting, thereby avoiding frustrating contact with the conditions of living in society before they are really ready for it.
And in order that there may be a climate of relative justice in the family, so that no disorder and rebellion are allowed in the family, so that things are not allowed to get out of hand in a way that would be detrimental to the whole family, so that the whole family, including children and young people, would suffer, and still more terribly, when the structure and duties of the family are seriously violated and the proper functioning of the family as a whole is being undermined out of a certain state of laziness and foolish carelessness.family,
- Perhaps the most wonderful benefit of listening to children and young people as parents is that children can enjoy their childhood to its fullest potential, take risks without loss or harm, allow teens and young adults to enjoy the treasure of their youth and strength, and truly learn how to make, maintain and keep beautiful and fulfilling relationships in life.
A big disadvantage that can arise from parental obedience is when parental obedience exceeds its duties and limits, when this so-called parental obedience can lead to a form of annihilation of one's own personality and normal and healthy way of life.
Parenting overreaches when parents sometimes,or even frequently,overreach themselves,often being pressured by this system,and pressing too hard on one or more outdated ideas,like a brake and accelerator often at the same time, which in time leads far too often to the ruin of the young person's life, to their lack of perspective and to far too serious, and sometimes lifelong, problems for the parents and the shame, fear and loneliness and confinement that can result of this.
Much worse is when obedience to parents, this wonderful skill that can help you enjoy your childhood and youth in peace and tranquillity, is actually misused by parents who, out of an excessive desire to keep things under control, unfortunately end up over-controlling every aspect of your life, including aspects that are very important for young people and where parents do no good to interfere, because they turn you into a slave, and into a being who will unfortunately remain all his life a child who is misunderstood, unheard by his parents and whose opinions do not count!
Especially when the teenager starts his first relationships and begins to know the world of love, and parents are categorically opposed to the love of young people in their care, and from such lack of understanding and empathy, which some parents show by seriously exceeding their duties, young people can ruin their lives.
Let us never allow them to do that!
Therefore, listening to parents can be both helpful and protective for parents and especially for growing up safely and creating a pleasant and safer way of life for children and young people.
But obedience to parents can also be a source of unhappiness for both parties when parents seriously overstep their duties, meddling unlawfully in the lives of young people and unreasonably and unscrupulously allowing themselves to make decisions for young people, and worse, to their detriment.
Listening to parents can be likened to a fire: within the right framework and always bearing in mind one's own responsibilities and the good of young people and their children where it is necessary and beneficial, particularly for children and adolescents, listening to parents can be good and even useful.
But where the lives of young people and children have become a living hell because parents have chosen to abuse their authority,parental obedience no longer has any legal basis,because it avoids supporting the good and the beautiful in the lives of young people and children,and such parents would find it useful and urgent to have their parental rights temporarily withdrawn until they choose to educate themselves on healthy ways to lead their family towards real happiness,satisfaction and progress,not towards disaster!
Please allow me to finally tell you a few words about myself. I am not writing these words to complain.
Some time after I came into the world,medicines found that I have a number of problems with walking, which,specifically, by the time I was four, I could not walk on my feet, and I also had some problems of psycho-social adaptability,which is why I am labeled with various offensive names even in my family, and I feel almost always misunderstood about my dreams, hopes and projects for the future;not only am I being thrown at unpleasant words, but the bad part is that most of my dreams are sabotaged - by whom do you think? Even my parents, the closest members of the family.
You find it odd, don't you?
And it's painful when those who should be your best friends, they seem to turn against you and become bitter enemies!
When I was a kid, I used to spend a lot of time in hospitals. Maybe that's why I wanted to be a doctor.
Parents, what to say at first? They supported my hope in a way. Or they were actually pretending to back me up.
When I was going to high school, they showed their true face.
They didn't even want to hear about my medicine!
Country people, with 4 classes,at what else to expect from them?
Each with its own fixation.
Especially when I thought I was in love!
Then you should have seen the theater!
No relationship of mine was approved by the parents; I did not even receive a clear proof of strength of character to recognize at least the right of” to have a girlfriend!
Or with what relationship I was caught, it was not good!
How did I adapt to such a situation?
That I've adapted, it's relatively little said. I suppose that a normal and whole-minded man could leave home when he had to face such a situation.
Simply, if I was without disabilities and faced this, I might have come to a conclusion like, I'm not just allowed to live. Yes,or not?
1) Detach your private life from your parents.
No one owes us anything at all to allow them to ruin our lives!
2) Re-evaluate your religious beliefs, and renounce if necessary the religion practiced in the family and/or imposed by your parents,especially when you see I'm about to ruin your life!
3) Value your real values, and if you can avoid the values imposed in your family if they disadvantage and risk making your life a torment!
You do not have to destroy yourself for anyone, much less for your parents!
4) If you are a major and mature at the same time,a man master of your life, and if you stand on your feet, do your greatest good, and this how urgent: GET OUT of your parents' house and life as soon as possible, until they do not get to destroy your life and dreams, and,until even your own soul with all that is most beautiful in it and put you in a lower position even a slave, even a slave,because you are not allowed to actually live your own life, because you have to live the life foreseen by your parents!
Believe me, you don't deserve this ordeal!
If you are a major and determined to live your own life instead of repeating endlessly the things imposed by your parents and others,go and live your life and seek freedom in a more free and secure place,it would be good if you were as far away from your parents and the environment in which you grew up and survived until today,that life can not say that it is called when you are practically closed all your life between the 4 walls in your parents' house, and your soul is practically sold by others for obscure interests.
5) Value your relationships and strive to learn to cultivate and especially to maintain cordial friendship with successful people, with people who have succeeded in life,and with those who by their own strength and with little help from other people who have really managed to have their own dreams and fulfill them.
It is very important to value true love in life, to seek to cultivate love relationships with people who are compatible with us and who can truly love us, and,above all to the soul and to sincere and pure love,that the soul and love save us from the plagues of defective relationships with parents who seem to forget what brings fulfillment and happiness in the life of man: connection to their own soul, Love, good friendships, etc,valuable and cordial relationships, and adherence, but especially the practice in everyday life of true values.
Do not give up love and soul for anyone and nothing in this world!
However, with the entry of young people into adolescence, the orientation of young people towards listening to parents knows a real, and at the same time absolutely beneficial change: instead of listening to parents, we know that,which in adolescence is a flawed thing and not often even a dangerous thing is not because it is an evil in itself,but because over several generations before us, very serious mistakes have been perpetuated regarding the traumas that have been transmitted with the primary form of education,to which many people have wrongly defined as the 'seven-year-old home”!
This should not be allowed to repeat!!
Children are whole souls, and they are entitled first to a favorable climate at home, not to howls, scandals and screams!
Then to clean and real education!
Not to destroy the future!!
Nor to the destruction of the real chances that every child must have!!
Starting in adolescence, it is vital to all understand that the time has come to listen to parents, and then to see ourselves for life, he said,and let us not be trampled on for a lifetime listening to them and thus allowing them to spoil our lives, transforming us for a very long time in their slaves!!!
I want to convey to these parents in a role whose duties have gone through and long since surpassed with maximum success or almost, that we want, that we want,and we make conscious efforts to listen and understand them.
Even though the mentalities behind their leadership come from another era, about 400 years ago.
And that the time has come to change the way of trans-generational pedagogy, the,so we prefer from the age of 15 to not allow our parents to defile our personality and steal our future, nor to mock in the most way grossly possible love,of our being as people already become,and in the process of maturing!!
The time has come to listen to parents, not by the parents!!
Our soul and life as a personality in the process of happiness and emotional stability and of NORMAL human feelings must be the zero priority!!!
Remember: parents can never give you what gives you true love, a good and sincere friendship,and far too often they can never give you something your soul needs!
Do not give up love and soul for anyone and nothing in this world!
Remember: parents can never give you what gives you true love, a good and sincere friendship,and far too often they can never give you something your soul needs!
For children,listening to parents is vital and natural.
Perhaps and that is why it is clearly regulated in the Word of God.
But do not make your children slaves, and never destroy their future to protect your back and ego””
Better yet, you prefer to put your muscles to work to create an environment where young people can and will want to grow freely,beautiful and where to have the mecesar climate for the free manifestation of youth and realistic positivism in their own life.
Fight for your love and happiness, keep close to you the things dear to your soul, and so over time you will become the person you have the divine right to become, independent and on your feet,and proving yourself so, and your parents will be proud of you someday, when you'll be away not to get revenge in any measure on them,but to create your life more beautiful, happier, to create the framework where you can truly love and are loved, too,and where to enjoy every day what you bring good and beautiful in your life, so that it makes sense and matters!
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